"WHAT! YOU ONLY GOT 95%? WHAT HAPPENED TO THE OTHER 5%?" *WHACK
"WHY ARN'T YOU LIKE JOHNNY OVER THERE, HE ALREADY BECAME A LAWYER!"
This is the stereotypical Asian parent-child relationship. The sad thing is, it's true(there are exceptions), Asian culture has deep rooted pride in education, and filial piety which is tainted by sin into competition with other kids, idolatry of studies, and fake filial piety with no respect or love for the parents, and condemnation towards others who are caring for their parents differently to ease your conscience.
Parent-child relationships are then twisted by these tainted values, parents only care about kid's study, love is only shown based on how well the kid performs in school/society, kid grows up and takes care of parents grudgingly because otherwise society would look down upon you.
I hope this picture distracts you form this wall of text, it's related to the topic so it's ok, right?
The even sadder thing is, many in Asian Christian families also have to deal with this issue. It's either on-going, or as a thing in the past that requires the child to forgive their parents and the parents to gain trust of the child and develop biblical parent-child relationships.
But this issue is not talked about enough in churches, I don't know why, perhaps it's because people like to pretend everything's ok. "We're church-goers right? so we can't be struggling with these things."
But I've learned over the years that not talking about it is the worst thing you can do. My parents are like this(they got a lot better as I grew older), it's still hard to talk about it and I still don't know how to deal with it, what they've done in the past still triggers anger (sometimes I wish they would just die). I need to forgive them.
The proper thing to do is to bring this issue into the light, so all parties involved can find redemption in Christ and have parental-child relationships where the kid honors their parents, and parents helps the kid grow in an environment of love and without exasperation.